Becoming in stillness
Voluntary or change thrust upon us within any of life’s variant experiences can lead us into a more slowed down, out-of-the-flow quality of life. Not exempt are the bigger deliveries life bestows upon us that create this sense of no longer traveling the speedy highways of life such as in loss or change. Rerouting us against all our well organized plans. Thus leaving us with the feeling that we are no longer propelling along our striving, our working, our daily routining of becoming.
Caves, refuge or despair
There isn’t always a clear path to live life on. It can be grown over by worry, fear and the sharp focus on “what if” to list a few. They are unique to each person while the experience of fully losing where we are on the map can be universal. A dark tunnel, cave or dark night of the soul are a few that I’ve heard it described as. Isolation sets in when we are seemingly not like the person next to us or the people we see out in our now ghosts of daily routines. The sensation that we are no longer in the current flowing with life’s routines or rituals of caring for ourselves in acts of making a meal, brushing our teeth or simply walking when we didn’t ask for this slowed down trickle of life can quite frankly leave us stunned when we arrive there. Likening it to a cave we can choose to use it as refuge for healing or a dark place that deepens despair. Choose refuge, choose it again like you are choosing what to eat. Lean into what that feels like. Starting to make this change, our becoming, in tiny increments much like a giant cruise ship makes turns can redirect our course.
Power Tool
Acceptance. There is a power in acceptance that adds a sturdy block to the baseline we live from. Acceptance in being with what is. This can feel uncomfortable, sting, downright burn. Rather than future tripping, being with was is and not knowing how things will turn out - we practice. Using tools of practice within movement, within breath, within stillness and our peace lies in the potency to create those tiny incremental pieces of change. It is here that we see where our cave is on the map of Self and its power. Ultimately turning isolation into intimacy with Self. Hearing the soft whispers of mind and body and what nourishment they are asking for. A place we can safely go to for repair and out of the line of well meaning friends one liner advice that isn’t helpful or perhaps even their judgement. The cave as the refuge.
Practice
MOVE inward. Use breath to guide you IN to a sense of calm to the parasympathetic nervous systems - our rest, digest and relaxation response.
ASK for help. Sharing with friends or family that are worthy of your experience.
EAT fresh, when accessible organic fruit, vegetables, proteins.
HYDRATE
CURIOSITY Can you reroute one overwhelming or defeating thought with an act of kindness or compassion to yourself? This may take time or may take rebuilding your baseline. Baseline is where you live from in your beliefs, what you know to be true. See re/sources listed below for additional professional mental health support for this type of deep excavating.
BODYWORK Reiki can be a gentle guide back to presence of restoration.
Living with uncertainty due to loss, life’s constant changing states, illness, injury we can re-collect our senses, incrementally build a strengthened flexible mind and spirit in order to create the ability to live fully anchored in faith that we are becoming in stillness and in being.
Peace & Being
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